A brand-new year often means a brand-new roommate. Whether it’s your first year or your last, the experience can be a little exciting and a little nerve-wracking, especially if you don’t have your own room. Sooth those butterflies in your stomach, calm your nerves, and get prepared for a successful meet and greet with these four tips for meeting new roommates.
Do Your Research
Social media is a great way to find out more about your prospective roommate. Usually, you’ll receive your roommate’s name and contact information before you get to the dorm. Take some time to do your research and check out his or her posts, pics, and statuses. If you really want to get to know your roommate, you can use a website like CheckPeople.com to find out more about them. You should be able to discover what activities they like, what they plan to study, and what their current room decor looks like. Make sure to send a message to your new roomie and start the process of getting to know each other.
Asking questions is the best way to find out about your new roommate. It may seem like a simple tip, but in the heat of the excitement, people often just start talking non-stop. Avoid “yes or no” questions. Open ended questions like “what is your favorite weekend activity?” to give your new roomie an opportunity to open up and talk about what they like. You can comment on their answers to your questions to develop a conversation. Careful: asking endless questions will make your roomie feel like they’re being interrogated!
Listening is often considered a lost skill because so few people do it effectively. After you ask a question, focus on what your roomie-to-be is saying. Try not to think about what you’re going to say next. Really stay in the moment and take in everything he or she is talking to you about. If you don’t completely understand, ask for clarification. When your roomie feels listened to, they feel valued, and that’s a great start to your relationship.
Smile, Smile, Smile
When it comes time to finally meet in person, remember to smile. Smiling indicates friendliness and will put your future roommate at ease. Smiling is almost always reciprocated which leads to a pleasant meeting. Along with smiling, keep your body language open and welcoming.
Meeting a new roommate is an exciting event in your life. Remember to do your research, ask questions and listen to the answers. Smile when you meet your roomie in real life, and above all, be yourself!